How to go about gaining confidence /overcoming shyness?
Right pathetic as it sounds I’m 17, never had a girlfriend which is bad, am cripplingly shy with basically no self confidence and i can barely ever keep a conversation going due to said lack of confidence/shyness, So does anybody know how I could go about gaining confidence and rcoming my shyness? I was looking into one of those self hypnosis CD’s but I don’t know how useful they’d be.
No stupid answers please.
Act as if you had confidence.
I have done this my entire life and people have always thought I had much more confidence than I have ever really had. I am in reality a very insecure person BUT when I am too nervous to do something I take a deep breath and say to myself, “okay, how would a really confident person act?” Then I go and do it pretending I am that very confident person.
Pretending to have more confidence than you really have may sound strange but all other things being equal, that is usually the thing that will either get you the date or lose you the date.
I hope this helps!?
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October 12th, 2008 at 11:57 am
I was the same way, I didn’t have a girlfriend til I was 20. The best thing to is just practice. Talk to all the girls you can, not just the ones you are attractive to all of them. Over time it will just become second nature.
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October 12th, 2008 at 12:03 pm
Basically, it is a full-on, lifelong process and takes many phases of your life to finally get there. There are as many ways of getting there as there are people I think. I’ve been through counselling, drugs problems, sexuality issues, a nervous breakdown.. but at the end of each one I was a bit stronger and wiser. It doesn’t matter at all that you haven’t had a girlfriend at 17. Loads of people would see it as a good thing. Some very cool people have been really late in losing their virginity. Sure, try the hypnosis CDs, I have tried those, maybe it helped. I think spirituality also plays a part and if you can get to know yourself, understand yourself, find your balance, that will help immensely in creating an unshakable kind of confidence and calmness within you.
Best of luck, I’m sure you’ll be fine.
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October 13th, 2008 at 12:25 pm
Act as if you had confidence.
I have done this my entire life and people have always thought I had much more confidence than I have ever really had. I am in reality a very insecure person BUT when I am too nervous to do something I take a deep breath and say to myself, “okay, how would a really confident person act?” Then I go and do it pretending I am that very confident person.
Pretending to have more confidence than you really have may sound strange but all other things being equal, that is usually the thing that will either get you the date or lose you the date.
I hope this helps!?
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